My soul-sister (who is currently based in Hawaii) and I had a semi-sensible chat a couple of days ago... I was bugging her to come back home and we were talking about my wedding preparations when she suddenly said,
"actually, yan nga ang madalas kong tanong sa mga kakilala kong ikakasal 4:35 PM
pano nila nalaman na yung tao na yun ang "the one" 4:35 PM "
Hmmm... this was a challenge to say in less than a hundred words (hey it's hard to chat using long paragraphs ha) but I knew I had the answer. She even followed it up with,
"di ko alam kung kelangan may magical feeling 4:35 PM"
Kasi nmn daw, nagtanong cya sa mga kaibigan nya, and more often than not, their reply will just be,
"Bsta, alam mo lng..." or "Hindi ko maexplain eh..." So ibig daw ba sabihin, pag na-explain mo ung feeling hindi sya ung "the one"?!?
Hindi nmn dba?
So then, I replied,
"...there's no magical feeling tlga. It's the peace, contentment and happiness you feel with the person and the feeling of wanting to grow old with him 4:42 PM
It's seeing a future with him, not a fairy tale future but a real one, with kids, problems, triumphs 4:42 PM
it's looking forward and seeing yourself on a rocking chair, simply talking with him during your golden years 4:43 PM
it's being able to, as you said, have a mature kind of relationship wherein you complement each other, you understand each other and you have a certain level of trust that you haven't experienced with anyone. 4:43 PM
it's being secure when you're with him, knowing that you can entrust your life and your future kids' lives in his hands, knowing fully well that he will be able to take care of you 4:44 PM
i know these are ideal scenarios, pero dba, if deep in your heart you cannot see these things with that person, ibig sabihin may doubts pa tlga"
So hindi nmn mala nobela ang sagot ko. as I said, pigil pa ako jan dahil mahirap sa chat. Pero I'm happy to say na sobrang naintindihan ako ng aking soul-sister coz she feels the same way for her current boyfriend, whom I really like for her, and whom I really do believe is the one for her. (at hindi din malaki ang bayad ng bf nya sakin for saying this ha... dahil binigyan ko cya discount sa service fee ko eh haha!)
So how do you know if he's the one? sometimes its as if we cannot quantify it in terms of words or descriptions -- maybe because we cannot find enough conflicts or differences that stand out and make us believe he is NOT the one. (you know, the kind of negating reasoning where you prove that the coffee is hot by stating that it is not cold)...
But don't you think that it could also be the overwhelming feeling of peace, that you cannot think of how to put it into words because maybe there are simply no need for words.
My soul-sister mentioned that I have been the only one who had given her a straight answer. Well, it is probably due to the fact that I am quite articulate myself -- however it doesn't mean that those who could not give an answer are already mistaken or confused. It might just mean they can't put it into words, dba?
I'm happy for those who truly believe they have found their "One".
I believe I have found mine too...
in fact, he's marrying me soon... :D
Powt, come home na! I need your measurements, and I need my kaladkaring friend back! :D
