Revelations, Reflections...

I recently learned of a lovely friend's heartbreaking story. A story of love and happiness turned sorrow and regret. Every girl's dream of good life and love, blown apart, washed away in a tsunami-esque manner.

However, amidst the brouhaha, I daresay that you, my dear, are still the lucky and blessed one. You have your family behind your back, and you have real friends who are willing to do everything to make you feel better. The mis-informed minority should not make a dent in the enlightened majority. What is important is that you know what the Mighty One knows. We may not be perfect, certainly we all have our faults, but let us rest assured that we are the ones on the right track. As my soul sister said, nothing beats sleeping soundly at night with a clear conscience. Only He can give you the strength you need. I wish you peace of mind, because nothing beats that. I wish you success in your new life -- and hopefully a new love we would soon be hearing about.

Do not fault yourself for loving someone. We always hope for the best in every relationship, don't we? And we are fully aware that when we give our heart to somebody, we also give him the power to crush it. There's always a 50/50 chance of that happening. It is how we move forward that matters. If we choose to put ourselves down and wallow in self-pity, then that becomes our fault. But if we choose to surround ourselves with positive vibes, good friends and continue to look fabulous (like you do, by the way), then there's already vindication in that. I love your positivity. Remember, you are blessed :)

Which got me into thinking. How much should we love? Or is that even a valid question? When we get into a relationship, we have every resolve to make it work right? So we give it our best shot, and that includes a lotta love and a lotta trust. Great if it works out and we end up being together for the rest of our lives. But what if it doesn't? Did we love too much? Or too little? Should we vow never to love the same way again, or repeat the exact same thing? Is it the same as getting a stone and hitting our own head with it if we love that way again? Or do we become man-haters? Or should we always believe in second chances, or new chances for that matter?

Everyone's entitled to her own opinion. As for me, personally, I believe in always giving my heart another chance to love. Love the same way, hope the same way, trust the same way -- with the past mistakes in mind. I guess the formula worked for me. If I didn't give myself another chance, and another chance and another (haha), I wouldn't have met my wonderful hubby. It's always in the aftermath that one realizes that indeed, everything happens for a reason.



So maybe some people are still in the stage where everything's happening and nothing makes sense at all. I guess all roads lead to that turning point in our lives where, after passing it, we look back and we're able to say, "Ah, so that's why it happened."

This Holy Week is a time for reflection. Maybe that's why I'm thinking this way hehehe. I hope everyone who oughtta think has already thought, and everyone who oughtta understand have already understood. Furthermore, I wish that whatever has been thought and understood shall eventually lead them to the right path.

Reaction to Satan's Letter to Willie

I recently read a creative blog (link posted by a friend) of "Satan" writing a letter to Willie Revillame.

http://worldofalbert.blogspot.com/2011/04/satans-letter-to-willie-revillame.html

I couldn't help but commenting:
"I agree specifically with user Khantotantra2.

Guys, this is a creative post. Doc Albert is entitled to express his opinion in a creative way as much as willie supporters are entitled to express their opinios by crying on TV to show support for their man. Kung tutuusin, may karapatan din silang magpost ng opinion dito pro sana walang personalan, wag na nila dirain [sic] ang pgkatao ng blogger dhil hindi nmn nya sinisira ang pgkatao nyo.

On the other hand, agree dn ako na nging OA ang reaction kay Janjan. Akala kc umiyak dhil napahiya. Hindi nmn. Umiyak cya dhil ntakot kay Mr. Balingit. Kng kalaswaan at moralidad ang pguusapan, mas mdami pang mas grabe na ginawa sa ibang shows. Pro wla nmn issue db?

Ang hindi lng tlga maganda kay willie is how he handles criticisms. Namemersonal eh. Ayan tuloy, nahahawa na ata ang ibang supporters nya, pati creative blog, pinepersonal. Hehe.

In the end, knya knya tyong opinion. Kung walang pumipigil sa inyo sumuporta kay Willie, wag nyo din sana personalin ung mga taong ayaw sa knya. Lawakan ang pang-unawa. "

As a writer with poetic license, I credit this guy for having good metaphorical skills. Altho i don't necessarily agree with some of his points, (e.g. that Willie would have wanted that Ultra Stampede to happen) I admire the blogger's grit in saying what he wants to say and receiving numerous bashings from Willie supporters for it.

I am neither a Willie hater nor a supporter. Sometimes I find him funny. Sometimes offensive. I recognize his desire to help the poor. But I also recognize how he, whether unwittingly or on purpose, manage to use his charisma for the masses as LICENSE to be arrogant and to defy authority.

His formula is using the "I'm-doing-this-for-the-masses…" ingredient. Example, something like: "Ginagawa ko itong lhat ng ito para sa masa. Para makatulong. Grabe ang pghihirap ko pra dito. Wala akong ibang hangad kundi tumulong..." (So far, this is true naman. But here comes the twist--) "Tapos pra sa isang maliit na bagay bbatikusin nyo ako? Sa dinami- damikong tinulungan, palalakihin nyo ang isang bagay? Gusto nyo bang matigil ang pgbbigay nmin ng saya sa mga kapwa? Eto n nga lng ang inaasahan nla eh, ngttyaga pumila sa labas pra sumaya mn lng at mbigyan ng pag-asa. Tapos dhil sa pmbbatikos nyo matitigil p ito?"

See? Though this is not verbatim, I want to point out his reasoning, how he manages to use the masses as a way of saying his detractors are the bad guys for criticizing his OWN wrongdoings. Or as a license for getting away with arrogance. That's what i don't like about him.

I hope the desire he has as he continues to help the poor is as much as his desire in banishing arrogance and tactlessness in his words and actions.

Ms. Venus Raj, WTH? (Why the hair?)

 I watched (some of the) Bb. Pilipinas telecast last night. I gotta admit, most of the girls' answers were good.

Moving forward, what actually disappointed me a bit was Venus Raj's hair. She looked like a tanned Sto. Nino. I was looking forward to her stately grace and poise (which she still had, yes), but I was major majorly distracted with her hair. WTH? (Why The Hair?) I missed her 1950's classic look and aura.

pic courtesy of Youtube (screencap)

However, I'm sorta kinda glad that her "major-major" slogan was picked up by Pizza Hut. I was actually surprised she became their image model -- being that pizza is not actually a common food for models. But good for her, she became famous, in a good way, because of it.

More power to you girl! Just get rid of that 'do. Your hair is better off straight. :)

The OFW's Wife

Now I know how it feels, sending off your husband to work abroad. I purposely left all our cameras (imagine, me, the camhoe?) so as not to remind me of this day.
Nevertheless, I'm surprisingly okay, doing better than I expected. Yeah I did cry the first time I walked into our room, when I saw his shirts and stuff scattered around. I realized, no one would use them in a long time, and no one will steal my blanket and bed space anymore. I got no one to wake up with everyday. Things I took for granted suddenly meant a lot.
However, I do realize that these are trivial things to cry about (but that don't stop me from doing so anyway). I oughtta focus my efforts on giving all the support I can give on his JobHunt: The Search for the perfect Job (that won't take him for granted).
I may have the license to cry me a river, but I know I also have the responsibility to accept the reasons for this temporary separation.