Wedding Aftermath: Reality sets in - updating records, accounts etc.

Below is an excerpt from my post in my yahoogroup Weddings@Work. It basically summarizes what we women must deal with after the wedding. I wished there was some kind of primer on this, to guide us... coz admittedly, after Christmas, my December wedding, the family reunions and the New Year honeymoon, it was pretty hard to descend from Cloud 9 and get back to work -- let alone think and organize all the paperwork and updating I had to do.

So here's a summary of what happend in the aftermath of my wedding. May this serve as somewhat of a primer for other soon-to-be-married brides, and may you succeed in carrying this out in a more organized manner than I did. Teehee. Read along. :D

"FIRST: practice na ur married signatures. Kc in the weeks following ur wedding, you'd be updating your records and you will be giving new specimen signatures. So dapat tlga comfortable na kyo sa new sig nyo kc ung specimen signatures nyo ung basis ng mga bank transactions dba? kya dpat maganda na ung sig natin dun. narealize ko to wen I was signing 3 sets of sig cards sa bank. medyo alangan pa ko sa signature ko, and there was even a time na nagsign ako nung old sig ko, kya I asked for another sig card. Practice na tayo mga sis.

SECOND: pra sa mga nag-aask ng monetary gifts, uso na ngayon ang nagbibigay ng cheque. Problem dito is kng nakapangalan ba sa maiden or married names nyo (buti ung iba nakapangalan kay hubby, so ok lng). Ung iba, like samin, Jon and Eva Capistrano nakalagay, so napilitan kmi mag-open ng AND acct pra lng maipasok namin un -- mgr's check kc un. Wat I did for the cheques in my maiden name was I deposited them agad. Then we had to wait for the marriage contract so I can update my bank records before I can deposit those in my married name or ung mga may AND/OR na nkalagay.

THIRD: LTO License/valid Gov't ID with MARRIED NAME. for those who drive, better update your LTO agad, pra magkaron agad kayo ng VALID GOVERNMENT ISSUED ID. Eto ang pinakamadali kunin coz all you need is your marriage contract and your BIR 1904 ata un. The other banks kc want a valid ID na married name na, not just your marriage contract. Malaking ginhawa sakin to nung na-update ko license ko.

FOURTH: credit cards, bank accounts etc. We really have to take time for this. kya ako mtagal bago ko nakumpleto kc hindi ako maka leave ng sunod-sunod after the honeymoon. Best to update bank accounts after you got a valid government issued ID with your married name.

FIFTH: SSS, PHILHEALTH, BIR etc... wala tlga akong kaalam-alam dito sa docs na to, kya super nangapa ako dito. Better talk with your HR/ACCTNG sa ofc pra matulungan kyo with the requirements. side note, wala pa rin akong SSS ID na married, kc sira lahat ng capturing branches nila. GRRRR!

SIXTH: Passport. To-do ko pa rin to, 5 months nako married pro hindi ko pa to naasikaso. Altho ok lng nmn sana hintayin ung renewal, pro kc kelangan sa application ni hubby for immigrant ung married passport ko. haaays.

So eto, summarized na. Just to give you an idea. kc sabog tlga ako nung ginagawa ko ito, wala nmn kc nakapg advise saken ng mga ito, bgla nlng ako tatanungin ng tga acctg namin, "oh, asan na ung sa BIR mo? ok na ba ung Philhealth mo? dpt kc ikaw magpareciv nun eh..." ako prang... "whaa--?!" hahaha!!

hope this helps! lamko usually preps tlga ung focus dito, kya sometimes nattake for granted ung aftermath, kya nga sabog ung pag-asikaso ko dito kc galing christmas, tpos wedding, tpos honeymoon, tpos... waaa! wala nmn ngsbi sakin na ganito pla un hehehe! Icp ko sana pla may Primer din abt this! kya eto nlng contribution ko :D"

Ciao!

Bossing around, are we?

A fine line exists between bossing around and delegating.

Delegating is when you make the other person feel that he is integral to the group. Bossing around is when you make the other person feel as if a) you’re just passing on a task that is supposed to be yours; b) you feel very superior that he should just do whatever you say without question, because he is a subordinate; c) all of the above.

Whenever the manner of delegating tasks is totally devoid of “Please” or any other word synonymous to it, it is borderline bossing around. The clincher now lies on how you make the other person feel. Do you make him feel inferior, or do you make him feel like a part of a team?

And how about you, what do you feel? Do you feel superior over your subordinates? Do you think you could do better, and therefore do not need to give importance to them and their feelings?

The funny thing is, one doesn’t even have to be a leader or boss to be able to boss others around. Insecure people do this as a defense mechanism. Also, brattinellas do this simply because they have the notion of being the center of the universe – or whichever entity they're currently in (office, family etc). Maangas guys also do this just to prove their machismo, because they have nothing else.

Of course we all have our own reasons. But the general rule is to be humble. The rest will follow.

Ciao!

p.s. I'm not talking about my immediate superior (jemmi) because she is my soul-sister. She knows when to give out a firm order and when not to. And I know her well enough not to misconstrue her actions. (ok na, jemmi? hehehe!)

Bulilit Fever

By now, most of us must have (at least) heard of Camella Homes' Bulilit TV Commercial, featuring a very cute little girl. If by chance you haven't watched the commercial just yet, here's the link, and see for yourself:

Bulilit TV Commercial on Youtube

This commercial never fails to put a smile in my face... and that of my mom's & dad's faces too. I'm not really obsessed with it, but it's so cute I always want to be reminded of it.

Top things you have done to know if you've got the Bulilit Fever:

1. No matter what you are doing, you rush in front of the TV when the commercial starts
2. You constantly resist the urge to tickle and kiss your TV set when the little girl does the "wide-eyed-innocence" look while eating her meal
3. You downloaded the clip to watch in your laptop/pc
4. You converted the downloaded clip and loaded it in your Ipod
5. Furthermore, you extracted the clips audio and converted it into MP3 to be used as a ringtone
6. You have screen-captured the picture of the bulilit kid.
7. You have made the screen-captured picture the wallpaper of your laptop/pc
8. You have made the screen-captured picture the wallpaper of your mobile phone
9. You have influenced other officemates to like the commercial too
10. You have spent ample time searching Youtube for videos of the cute kid's TV guestings.

Hmmm...not too much, eh?

Yeah yeah. I guess if you put me through a scanner I'd be diagnosed positive of the Bulilit Fever. Hey, but at least, this is one fever I won't mind having.

Bulilit... bulilit... sanay sa masikip.. kung kumilos kumilos... ang liit liit... bulilit...

Ciao!

The Girl in the Purple Scarf

Yeah, I just watched Confessions of a Shopaholic yesterday.... uh-huh... I know, I'm such a loser, bigtime... But hey, I watched Star Trek in IMAX so I hope some of my loser status could still be redeemed :D

I wonder if I should start writing as The Girl in the Purple Scarf?


Ciao!

Not So Ordinary Billiards Night

It was payday Friday, and with that usually comes a slew of spontaneous invitations from officemates/friends for a gimmick. Frankly, I try to steer clear of gimmick places and popular restaurants on Payday Fridays because of the crowd -- either you wait to be seated, or you are seated but you're waiting for your food, or you've got your food but you're waiting for extra rice that takes years to serve....

So.. when my officemates suggested billiards at Paeng's, my hubby & I decided to tag along, thinking that since it was still quite early, maybe we could still get tables, and at least it's not some crowded restaurant. We thought we got all things considered -- until I remembered that we were supposed to meet our parents because we were eating out with them. So what to do? what to do? We don't want to keep our parents waiting for an hour while we play billiards... so the next best thing is to...

...bring them along!

Yup. We did. They went.

Initially, our parents were only supposed to look at the bowling rates of Paeng's (we plan to make a career out of bowling haha), but then my hubby asked dad if he wanted to get a separate billiard table. Dad said, sure, it's been a while since he played and so the game commenced...

Mom trying to wing it :D

Dad trying to work around those goddarm balls :D

How often does one get to play billiards with their mom & dad? Dads do, but mothers usually don't. Hehe. So it wasn't an ordinary billiards on payday friday night after all.

Ciao!

Oh yeah, got a new sig :D

Oh yeah, I just recently learned how to put my signature here. teehee. I've had this signature for quite some time but didn't have the time to learn how to put it here --- until yesterday :D so there.

For those who may be wondering, I have been cross-posting from multiply since last year (meaning I post in multiply and I simply check the box that says "cross-post to blogger" and viola! my post is reposted here!) but for some reason, when I changed my template, the cross-posting doesn't work anymore. Therefore, I was coerced to learn and be familiar with posting here manually. And with that, I found out I could get a signature and whatnot, like I do in my emails. So maybe I'd start pimping my blog now.... We'll see. :D

will be signing my posts with something like this for now (see below) ... until I get bored and change it to another one. LOL.

Ciao!

Don't be a Blinker! *blink*blink*

Who thought something as mundane and as trivial as this could have a definite impact on something important?

TIP for those to be wed or to have their pre-nuptial shoot: Don't blink right after the first flash -- wait for a few seconds more because the photographers are taking follow-up shots...


(I just shared this with my co-w@wies) Ok, here's the thing. Having seen the raw pictures from my wedding, I noticed that the photogs take around 2-4 bursts of shots for a single pose, usually for the important couple shots (like the ones in Church after the ceremony etc..). I noticed that altho most of the 1st shots were good enough, there are times when the smiles are still not that warm and the poses still a bit awkward so I tend to choose the 2nd or 3rd shot of the same pose. However, more often than not, I realized that my hubby had already blinked by then, so his eyes are closed/partially closed in the succeeding shots -- just when the rest of us in the picture were all warmed up and ready. Ergo, I end up settling for whichever shot has all our eyes open, knowing it could have been better if only my hubby (or I) did not blink immediately.

I asked my hubby why his eyes were always closed in the latter shots, and he says after the flash he blinks already because of the glare, not really aware that there were follow up shots.

So especially for the couple, do try to keep from blinking immediately after the flash goes off. Remember that this event won't happen again, and it would really have an impact later when you start to pick through the hundreds of pictures to put in your final album.


ciao!

Got bored, chopped my hair and (gasp!) almost Kissed A Girl?

I got bored with my hairdo.... so I stomped over at David's and had them chop my hair off, complete with sided "bengs" as my stylist said. Lol. I also got myself a new pair of specs (eyeglasses), since I realized that my last eye check-up was dated 2004 (eek!). I guess that explains my headaches and nausea.

• Haircut by David's
• Eyeglasses by Charles + jacob eyestudio (eo-executive optical)
• Background by yours truly (yeah, literally, since those binders you see are my project documents etc...)

Oh and I said I "almost" Kissed A Girl coz I almost looked like the song's singer, Katy Perry. Long face, short bob with bangs. LOL. Gotcha.

(did u honestly think I literally kissed a girl? ..... yeah ok, i did, but not now! i'm married! teehee.)